There is no way around it, planning a wedding is stressful! After 10 years in this business we have seen it all and there are some things that brides can do to keep the stress down and really enjoy the whole process.
HIRE A PLANNER! duh!
Ok, You knew I was going to say that but seriously hire some help! You wouldn’t attempt to fix your cars’ engine or fly your own plane, planning a wedding is no different. It takes a very specific set of skills, knowledge and experience to plan a (successful) wedding. Most Brides have never planned a wedding before (and NO, helping a friend plan her wedding is not the same thing.) If your budget doesn’t allow a full time planner, hire one for the month of. Having a planner cuts down on stress in many ways but the main way is that we take over communication and logistics with your vendors. It’s much less stressful to tell one person what you want and then have them relay that message to everyone else and deal with any issues or questions.
TRUST YOUR VENDORS
We are the professionals! You hopefully did your homework before hiring your vendors so trust them! It is very hard for us to do our job when you second guess and try to micro manage us. It doesn’t work! This is a big reason to have a wedding planner, you won’t be able to be there on the wedding day because you will be getting ready. Having a Wedding Planner insures that there will be someone there during set-up that is representing your best interest! Your Wedding Planner will also be there to handle any issues that arise, and to be honest, there are always problems!
Working in the wedding industry is HARD! Events are long and exhausting, very stressful and largely thankless. Why do we do it you ask? Most of us do it because we LOVE IT! We love making your wedding dreams come true, its a total high! So trust that we are going to do everything we can to make sure your day is perfect!
DONT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
At the beginning it’s very easy to get lost in all the small details (thank you Pinterest) but try and let that stuff go at the beginning. Focus on the big things, your vendors! The small details will get worked out as you get further in to the planning process. There is a very good chance that as you book your vendors, the vision and style of your wedding may change, so those hand painted escort cards you were stressing about in the beginning, you don’t even want anymore!
KEEP IT ALL TOGETHER
Keep a notebook, planner or binder (even if you have a planner.) Make lots of lists and keep them all in the same place. Did you know that one of the most therapeutic things you can do is crossing something off your todo list? Well it is, that, and petting a cat but I don’t recommend getting a cat just for that purpose.
FIND YOUR HAPPY PLACE
What I mean by this is find a stress relieving activity that works for you: yoga, meditation, boxing, running, shopping, etc. Find an activity and do it the minute you feel overwhelmed. Take a break and relax. Unless you are getting married in 6 weeks, there is plenty of time to get things done. There is nothing that can’t wait for an hour or 2 while you de-stress. Trust me, you and your fiancé will be happier for it.
Last but not least….
DON’T LOSE PERSPECTIVE
It’s very easy to get wrapped up in the “wedding” part of all this but above all it is about a Marriage. A union between two people that are promising to spend the rest of their lives together, don’t lose sight of that.
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