First Look: Pro’s and Con’s

We are so excited to have the amazing Tracy Autem here to kick off our new Guest Blogger series. Every Sunday we will be giving you a glimpse in to the world of weddings with some of DFW’s premiere vendors.  Make sure to check us out every week for tips and advice from the wedding experts.

First Look: Pro’s and Con’s

Guest Blogger: Tracy Autem


Sticking to tradition or throwing it out the window? Seeing one another before the ceremony is a big decision for today’s brides.  When asked this question by my couples, I have one simple bit of advice:  Be Authentic.  That is my answer to many questions so let me explain.

It is your day, your vision, your romance and as a bride and groom everything about your day should reflect you as a couple.  When it comes to first looks, sights, glances (so many names for this trend!) you should do what feels right and makes sense for your desired photography.

That is all well and good; but why would doing it one way over the other make more sense to you?  Here are some pro’s and con’s from a photographers perspective for you to weigh when making your choice.


  • Are either of you the nervous type or get flustered in front of large crowds?  At the thought of being the center of attention do your turn green?  If you (or your spouse to be) suffers from anxiety or some major nerves seeing each other beforehand takes the edge off.  Besides, you have picked this person to spend the rest of your life with!  They are probably the best cure to those anxious feelings and being apart just seems unnatural.
  • Get to the party faster! Guests can enjoy a short cocktail hour and then on to the party.  Why?  Because with a first sight most (if not all) of your formal photography can be accomplished prior to your guests arriving at the ceremony.
  • Location, location, location!  Seeing each other early sometimes means capturing daylight in the winter months before your evening ceremony, visiting a favorite spot, adding variety to your images by changing locations and having a relaxing time doing so (no rushing!)
  • Emotional responses and plenty of time to twirl in your gown and let that guy gush over your wedding day look.  Hug, smile, kiss, laugh and actually get to talk to each other when you see one another (during a ceremony you might get a whisper in – no major conversation until that ring is on!)


  • You’re a traditional kinda girl/guy.  It’s ok – if this is you then skip right on down to saying no to this trend.  If you love all things time honored and true you may regret stepping out of your box this time.
  • You are having a BIG split of time on your wedding day (think hours between the wedding and reception.)  If this is the case, all the pro’s above are null and void – you have so much time in between to take photos that you can be leisurely about it.

I love first looks – they make MY day easier because as a photographer we get tons of time to play and take photos.  But it is YOUR day, like I said.  Be authentic in your choices and in the end you will be pleased with your wedding and your photography!

-Tracy Autem

Tracy Autem is a Dallas – Fort Worth, Texas based photographer specializing in weddings.  Loving being in relationship with others has led her bring together a team of university trained photographers with her associate brand Lightly Photography.  After 10 years of weddings she still laughs, cries and loves behind the camera.

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